- THAT THEY WILL SEE SOMETHING INAPPROPRIATE: Help them understand that they will have opportunities to see, read, & watch inappropriate things. Give them a head’s up so they aren’t surprised in the moment. Talk it out. Help them form a plan of action. Talk about what is and isn’t appropriate.
- THAT THEY NEED TO GET ACTIVE/LEARN A SPORT: Get or keep them in an active sport. Boys need to be very active to keep their hormones in check. Enroll them in a marathon, if necessary. 😉 For girls, exercise is helpful for hormonal balance, weight management, posture and good moods. Give them the gift of learning a sport that they can practice their whole lives.
- THAT THEIR BODIES ARE CHANGING: Help them care for their changing body. Provide for their body changes with razors, shaving cream, deodorant, feminine products, etc. Don’t wait until they have to figure it out on their own. Make it a special moment, but most importantly, help them with it. – Wonderful acne. We all feel that teenage pain, right? Help your kids care for their skin. Wash face twice a day with a gentle facial cleanser. Pul-eese don’t let them strip all the oils off their face with alcohol or a harsh cleanser. That will actually work against the problem and their face will begin producing more oil to make up for it. If nothing works, bring them to a dermatologist. There is no need to be ashamed of the way you look for your entire teen years. They are hard enough already. (Print our favorite Essential Oil Acne-Clearing Face Scrub. Just scroll to the bottom of this post.)
- THAT THEY ARE HANGRY (hungry/angry). Feed them. I’ve noticed my kids act like bears until I throw them some food. I’ve begun to bring food with me in the car when I pick them up from school. Our conversations aren’t so cranky and short instead they are relaxed and happy. (This is a change for us, we’ve never had to bring food anywhere until they hit this stage. They really are hungry. Make it easy on them and you, and feed ’em! 🙂
- THAT THEY CAN CHANGE & YOU ARE PROUD OF THEIR CHANGES. Allow them to change. This has been the hardest for me and my 6th grader. He’s growing up and wants to be a man. My husband has saved my son from a lot of embarrassment, just by letting me know when I’m being the crazy/embarrassing/overly mushy mom. Save the hugs and kisses for home because he still needs to feel your love…but not at the expense of his manhood. (I still don’t understand why it would have been embarrassing for me to take a picture of him at his desk on his first day of school. Seriously! ;))
- THAT YOU LOVE THEM, NO MATTER WHAT. They push you away, but they still need to know that you love them. Grab the moments on the couch and snuggle. Keep tickling them. Make them laugh. Don’t let the rules get in the way of the relationship.
My Essential Oil Acne Clearing Face Wash
- 2 tsp baking soda
- 2 drops of lavender
- 1 drop of tea tree oil
- 1 tsp water
Blessings as you raise your middle-schoolers!
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