I admit it. I went into marriage pretty naively. Marriage: it’s all like romance, gifts, flowers and love. Then, real life set in and I wasn’t happy that I wasn’t the sole recipient of his time, attention or affection. This wasn’t the romance that I had pictured as my marriage!
Listening to the radio one day, I heard a line that rocked my world,
“God lures us into marriage by our sexual desire,
then He (God) uses that marriage to reshape us.”
I always realized marriage was designed by God, etc. etc…but, it never hit me that God uses marriage to work IN me, to make me more like Him. That is such an awesome thought! It made me begin to take the target off my spouses’ back and begin to realize….oh, yea, this is about me growing up. This is about me learning how to handle stress and how to communicate like an adult. It is about me learning to love someone and meet their needs, not just get my needs met.
Our culture is such a “me” centric culture, that we really don’t even realize the mindset that we’ve bought into. It comes across when we only are happy when things somehow benefit us. As long as my needs are being met, I’m all in. But, as soon as I’m not happy, I get ready to throw in the towel. Now, the thinking in our culture is not, “I am not happy,” but “I could be more happy with someone else.” And, it isn’t just in marriage, it is in all relationships in our lives.
Here is a printable that you can frame, put it on your desk or nightstand, to remind you throughout your day of what God thinks about love & marriage. They apply whether your marriage is new, fulfilling, & fun, or it’s lonely, unsatisfying and empty. Let us love like Jesus loved us. While we were unloveable, we were not worthy of his love, but he loved us anyway. That’s the model we strive towards.
Keep this in front of you everyday and ask for God’s strength so you can to serve, encourage and bless each other in your marriage. If you would like this printable, as well as MEMBERS-ONLY ACCESS to my entire library of printables, just sign up here!
IMPORTANT NOTE: If you are in an abusive relationship, please seek help. Keep yourself & your children safe by getting support and separating from the abuser. There are many wonderful organizations and resources for you. You are not alone. Don’t feel shame or embarrassment because you cannot control another person’s poor decisions, addictions and abuse. You are not their savior and you are probably not the one to help them.
- National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE
- National Domestic Violence Hotline Spanish 1-800-942-6908
- Battered Women and their Children 1-800=603-HELP
Not in an abusive situation, but your marriage is on the brink? Call for Hope 866.875.2915 (Focus on the Family)
May your marriages, relationships and friendships be blessed!
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