You’ve been here before, right? You are in the middle of a crowd and your spouse says something dumb. Or, you are busy packing the car for vacation and tensions are running high. You start bickering over something with your spouse and you really don’t have time to deal with it. Yes, we all know that we should stop and talk things out, but sometimes, you just don’t have the time. Do you know what has saved us lots of time and fights. Just two words: Same Team.
We all say dumb things or offend the other or do something thoughtlessly. When something like that happens and you don’t have the time to deal with it. Look at each other and say, “Same Team.”
This doesn’t mean you don’t talk about it. This doesn’t mean it isn’t a problem. It just means, we love each other, the commitment to our relationship is bigger than a slight. It means, we are mature enough to put this on the shelf until an appropriate time when we can talk about it. And, it also means, you don’t pout or give each other the cold shoulder until you have that opportunity.
Eric and I began pastoring when we were only 25 years old. When you are in a public place, especially a place where it is your responsibility to care for others, is where we learned this. We didn’t have the ability to have a big blow-up in public. We had to learn that we could talk about it later. 😁
We still do it to this day and it has gotten much easier because we trust that the other one isn’t doing anything to harm. We trust that we love each other. You’ve gotta have that trust and then, “Same Team” works.
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